It starts here: self-honesty & self-responsibility
Law Zero: The prerequisites of self-honesty & self-responsibility are as important as breathing if one is to live a life of happiness & success. These then empower the 10 Laws of Success. Self-honesty is the first of these two foundational human traits. It is important to know that these can be developed. Regardless of how psychologically advanced you may be, these traits can be further refined and enhanced. This aspect is complex, please watch the video where I explain.
Why is Self-honesty so important?
Self-honesty is foundational to any decision or evaluation process. It relates to our inner processes and feeling state. This then impacts any skills or habits contained in this website as these are based on internal state awareness.
The basic dynamics and operation of the unconscious mind of the student (or adult) needs to be observed by that person. Only that person can do this for themselves. For example it is required for the traffic light evaluation when doing the state awareness exercise. The second step is to evaluate the nuances of their neurology as they go into the learning state. Noticing the differences between the before and after give the feedback if the learning state has been achieved, or at what depth it has been activated.
One has to want to be honest and see what is going on inside of oneself to get a clear answer and then shift that. Self-honesty in this website has nothing to do with the level of truth spoken to others. What’s important for learning and bringing the unconscious mind back into its harmonious state is self-honesty.
As self-honesty is practiced it does improve. Its no different to any skill we learn, be that tying a shoelace, playing tennis or flying a jet fighter.
However, self-honesty is very critical when it comes to learning, living, relating and success in study. Improvement cannot happen without this critical process taking place.
Naturally the flow on effect of self-honesty is foundational to the character and conduct of a person. Individuals that do not be self-honest tend to have dysfunctional relationships. They will tend to be dysfunctional unconsciously, meaning they tend to run off red traffic light programming, not a conscious choice in this moment.
Behaviours are based off the limbic system which is the amygdala and reptilian brain areas. This means it is a fight-flight instinct response for safety reasons. These people typically have low emotional intelligence and ‘dump their baggage‘ on others if aggressive or be the opposite of passive.
What is possible is this fundamental function can be improved. This assumes the person wants it. As the saying goes ‘you can take a horse to water, but you cannot force it to drink‘.
If this foundational prerequisite is missing then the standard Se,ester / 16 week coaching package is the best option. The other option is professional counselling / psychotherapy (etc). People are unmotivated and dysfunctional for a reason (please read the unconscious mind page). Working with this can take time and nurturing.
And lets be clear: This is a continuum, we can all improve our level of self-honesty, and then self-responsibility. The depth of our unconscious mind is unfathomable so there is plenty to uncover and be aware of.
Law Zero part 2: Self-responsibility for ownership and action
Being self-honest to acknowledge and observe something is the first step. The second is to take ownership. Only the person can choose where to place their attention and apply their time.
If they take self-responsibility for that then they can take the appropriate action to move to the desired outcome. The desired outcome could be anything like entering the learning state to study or baking a cake. This video explains this second most foundational requisite, please watch it, and re-watch it.
Why did I keep the blooper at the end video?
I left the end bit of the video uncut on purpose. It makes me laugh each time I see it. I had been kneeling on a huge log to make that video, so my legs didn’t work so well after 25 minutes of kneeling. Its good to laugh. I’d rather be genuine that Instagram perfect.
The other reason is the unconscious mind is a 5 year old, it plays and stuffs up and laughs at mistakes. This is why I live Law of Success No10: Mastery. My unconscious is default in the peaceful and happy place of the learning state by default.
If you watch Jacinda Ardern, the current New Zealand Prime Minister, she does similar things. She is just herself which is why she is such a great Role-model (Law 9). She is so relaxed about her quirks it’s wonderful to watch, then emulate in your own life. The video to the left is titled ‘Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern Explains Why The UN Laughed At Trump‘. She was interviewed on The Late Show with Stephen Colbert. This interview is delightful and funny, she does not hide her quirks. Observe how relaxed she is. What areas of your life would you like to be that relaxed and at peace? This is also a demonstration of the green traffic light state when being asked tricky questions, as the title of the interview indicates.
Regarding self-honesty and self-responsibility, what would your guess be about Jacinda Ardern’s relationship to these factors within herself?
If her relaxed nature, as shown in that video, including her ability to be responsive in tough situations appeals to you, then what can you do to emulate this wonderful role-model?
Regards to your own self-honesty and self-responsibility: How would you need to improve that so you could live in that same place that Jacinda Ardern shines as a relaxed and ‘just being myself’ type of person?
The foundational multipliers of success
These two factors make a core multiplier (or divider if used as a percentage) of successful outcomes. While it is empirically impossible to give an exact percentage for each, it is the exercise of awareness around them that will indicate the speed and stability of a person to achieve a goal. In this case the rate and stability of a person to hold the learning state, thus be at peace and fully resourceful.
What happens over time with state awareness and learning state entry is they become more regular and deeper. Eventually it becomes the default habit. The prime directives of the unconscious mind make this a mathematical function.
As I state in a video above what is 2 x 0.5? It equals 1.0. Thus it will take a person twice as long to get to 2. Being half self-honest and self responsible means the result is halved. This is a metaphor for the effectiveness of these factors. To return to the default state of peace and joy means it can be done faster if the individual is more self-honest and self-responsible.
Eventually the learning state becomes the default setting. This is quite parallel to Carl Jung’s Individuation process. The learning state is then held both consciously and unconsciously in more intense situations. I explain that happening in the emergency response video when I was hit by a car in 2018.
To use Jungian terms the ‘Self’ (big Self) is maintained while the ‘self’ (little self or ego) deals with the tough stuff in life. The integrated wholeness of the psychological mechanism keeps one’s mind and neurology in peak performance. Trauma induced fight-flight responses and traumatised behaviour responses are not activated. If they do trigger the person can still hold them and maintain the learning state of awareness.
I describe that in the car crash video where I said I entered the learning state instantly once I hit the ground. I did this even though I was unable to breathe because I had been winded. I was able to function fully, assess my body damage and make a video of the accident scene within 60 seconds of being hit and taken 20 meters (65 ft). I was able to control my body’s shock response. With self-honesty, that becomes highly tuned it can be monitored. I like to say all this is measurable, that was certainly a measurable event!
I have lived consistently in the learning state for over 11 years. These 11 years have included a full range of unpleasant human experiences where I was able to maintain the learning state. The cockatoo videos where I get bitten also demonstrate this to a lesser degree. This was painfully so when bitten on the ear by a wild Sulphur Crested Cockatoo in the Law 4: Work Your Ass Off video. There are no edits at that part of the video, yet I recover and get on with talking even though the sharp pain continued for a bit.
At the simple level, to get better grades the person needs to have these two factors to some degree. Then they can turn their neurology on to learn and remember more easily. To live permanently in the learning state is then a matter of time and application. Repetition is how a habit is set. The correct habit means success. The unconscious mind is a habit machine.
Only two questions then remain:
1. What is it you want? (Laws of Success 1: vision)
2. What will you do about it? (Law Zero)
Then it is a matter of applying the skills in this website to achieve the desired goal. These skills being state awareness, learning state and if studying the use of whole brain study techniques. The 10 Laws of Success give the guidance to ensure you get there more easily and in less time.